Fashion Finds: How to wear L E G G I N G S

Leggings, can't get enough of them right?? I ♥ leggings, I don't know what I would do without them...honestly. However not everyone knows how to rock a decent pair of leggings, whether it be problems with what looks good on your body type or how to piece it together with everything else. Welp, here are some helpful tips/visuals that should lead you towards the path of "chic", I advise you to take notes.

...With a Crop top
"oh no, no no! you can't wear leggings as trousers!" uhh who made that rule up? Of course you can!, just as long as it doesn't offend anyone. For my slimmer ladies with that modelesque physique you can actually get away with wearing leggings with a short top. For my daring shapelier females go ahead and rock the same look but throw on a long cardi or blazer just so your rump doesn't cause car accidents lol.

...with boots
Who said leggings were boring? well you can dress it up or down by your foot wear. Throw on an ankle boot for that Kim K look or go all out with the knee high boot, flat or heeled boots would really compliment a good legging nicely.

...with a longline vest
For the more modest type, or if your pretty bottom heavy then you might opt for wearing your leggings with a long line vest/top. It still looks good and it covers the risky areas lol. I personally prefer wearing my leggings with a longline vest rather than a tunic, I still want to look like I'm wearing a top with leggings rather than a dress with leggings.

Wet look Leggings Rock! (sometimes)

Have a look at how I would reccomend you'd wear wet look leggings:

How NOT to wear wet look leggings

Leggings gets a thumbs up from me, just avoid looking like the above and your good to go! ♥

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Get out my hair...P L E A S E

To whom it may concern,

For years the weave debate has been an ongoing argument. As of recently I’ve found myself in the midst of these debates (pro weave of course) fighting my corner, going round after round, taking a couple blows and sending a few myself, but now I can honestly say that I’m exhausted!

The funny thing is I’m having these debates with MEN, black men that have issues with black women “not embracing their natural hair”, black men that HATE weave on black women, black men that are disappointed in the fact that black women are conforming to the stigma of society’s perception of [European] beauty. What HURTS me the most, is the same black man that is telling me that I must “hate myself” because I wear weave, is putting the likes of Beyonce, Nicki Minaj, Sanaa Lathan, Gabrielle union, Megan Goodd etc, weave wearing BEAUTIFUL black women on a pedestal so high they could catch a nose bleed. If I as a black woman are being made guilty of conforming to society’s perception of beauty, then YOU as a black man are just as guilty...no? I mean this so called perception was created by a MAN right? And as a black man you fed into it and decided that: European features = beauty.

Some people have been so quick to get on the black woman for “self hate” and disowning her natural self, not embracing who she really is, that’s HER issue. But there comes a point where men...yes you black men, have to take some responsibility. Are YOU EMBRACING OUR NATURAL STATE, do you have the likes of India Arie, Jill scott, Lauryn Hill, Goapele and Erykah Badu (to name a few) on your top 5...well? Be honest with yourself. Think about all the black women in the industry you find attractive, now weed out the ones that have NATURAL HAIR. If they all do, then this post is not directed to you, if none of them do then please keep reading. If you are a black woman that hates the state of your natural hair, that doesn’t embrace the origins of your hair, that use weave to hide the “shame” you call your own hair... this post is NOT for you.

 My Hair journey:

Yes I wear weave, I love weave it’s like a new pair of shoes to me, I don’t wear weave because I need it, I wear it because I like to, it’s a PREFERENCE. I started to wear weave more often during my transition stage (going natural) I haven’t relaxed my hair in 2 years. My natural hair texture isn’t kinky it’s pretty soft and when I had come to this realisation I thought it be a waste of money to relax my hair especially if it didn’t take much to get my hair to the desired way I wanted it without using hard chemicals. Although I personally don’t agree with relaxing your hair solely because it’s easier to manage.

I wore weave as a protective style, to protect my natural hair from heat damage and other elements and it worked because within a year my hair has grown dramatically but I still have a long way to go in terms of its thickness. But I LOVE my natural hair in all its fluffiness.

“Lola why so hard on the black man, isn’t this a black woman’s problem” I’m not disputing that. It is very much our problem but when some black men want to rant and rave about it, and act as though they have not contributed to the problem this is where I have to put my foot...well in this case fingertips... down! Lol.  I’ve heard it all; “too many black girls wearing weave, see and they wonder why we go for the lighties” – black man. Seriously?? That statement in itself is so backward. So you’re telling me because you feel like black women aren’t rocking their natural kinky hair you’ll opt for a woman that has naturally soft, wavy/curly hair (who probably has tracks in anyway) the same kind of hair that said"self hating" black woman is being accused of emulating, uh so basically not only is she not willing to embrace her natural state you’re not either...hmmm with comments like these we’re just going around in circles pointing the finger with no solution to the “problem”.

For the women that embrace their natural hair but wear weave purely as a protective style, or to change up their style, or it’s just something they like to wear, then by all means wear it, wear it well and wear it with confidence. Even for the women that relax their hair, and do it simply because it’s a style they prefer, rock it with confidence!

For the weave hating black men; why don’t you openly embrace some of these natural sisters a bit more? stop talking about it, you never know, it may be the solution to this “problem”. Hmm maybe some of the “self hating, weaved up chemically altered” black women may just feel pressured to go natural if natural women became more desirable.

And that’s all she wrote,

Yours, CONFIDENTLY SECURE IN MY OWN SKIN, BLACK WOMAN.

*flicks remy...drops mic*